this is for my children ...

i have tried to keep my blog secular
and this post is not about religion anyway...
its more about spirituality and doing the right things as human beings

be happy for others
and wish them well...even your enemies

remember - when u wish others ill, it is a prayer unto yourself
(there's an indian saying...when you lie down and spit...it falls on you)
...now, son, don get smart alecky on me and say...why cant we stand and spit.

my point here is....a prayer for others is a prayer for yourself answered...
i have seen this happening so many times in my life...i have lost count...wish i had a blog then, to record the miracles i have experienced...it's not that I pray so that i benefit....prayer with ulterior motives like that...is not good right?

more importantly, you need to forgive others...no matter what they have done to you..
unforgiveness...is like a huge luggage you carry around your neck...if you do not
let it go...it hinders you, it slows you down.

Bitterness is "so common and so deeply destructive that some psychiatrists are urging it be identified as a mental illness under the name post-traumatic embitterment disorder

opinion... I find that ridiculous...its probably a study that has been sponsored by some pharmaceutical company that has discovered and anti-bitterness pill...made of pure sugar, perhaps? My point here is...bitterness,resentment...these are emotional baggage.(not a mental illness)..and it is within your ability to cut it loose and move on...and its not easier said than done...it takes effort but it can be done

i am sharing this with you - personal as it is...even though students will be reading this because, if it helps even one person..it is worth it. I have only shared this with one class before, because a girl broke down in class during compass lesson...but that's another story..

I used to be a petite..actually a very slim young lady...and too well endowed for my own good - if you know what i mean. I was molested many times in the bus, so much so that i had a phobia for taking the bus...there was this one man...(i am still so overwhelmed now and feel like crying)...who repeatedly molested me on the bus on my way to school..I tried going at a different time.. but somehow...he was still there...
i was in sec 2, really puny, couldnt even reach the bell..so i couldnt get out every time i saw him...can you imagine what i went through.. in those days, we don't talk about such things , not even to your best friends...

son, i kept it all bottled up and just prayed and prayed. One day, it stopped. I didnt see him and I thanked god...but even at that age...i prayed that he wouldnt find another victim...i prayed no one else would go through what i went through..i did not pray that he would be killed..i never once wished him ill...

then when i was in sec three...i saw him again...he walked up the bus..and my heart was beating so fast...and i prayed he wouldnt sit next to me...he didnt...and from the corner of my eye i could see him limping very badly..one glance and i realised that he had had a stroke...every step looked like torture and he had aged terribly.

he sat alone with his head bowed. i am sure he saw me and would have recognised me...
do you think, son, that at this juncture I felt joy...that he deserved what he got?
no, son. That's not the way I was brought up. And certainly not the way I brought you up.

I was glad that he wouldnt hurt me anymore. But I felt sorry for him and i forgave him. more importantly, when i saw him...it was evident to me that my prayer had been answered...he could not and would not have hurt another girl.

We are all imperfect. It really doesnt matter what people do to you and say to you. Do not hate them. Just pray that they will either stop and make an effort to find someone who empowers you and makes you feel good about yourself.

I did not stop taking the bus because of what happened...i had no choice...that was the only mode of transport i could afford

so, if something happens at your workplace...can u opt to stop going to work? likewise, with school...

We all have it within us to overcome; fight it; some need outside help, thats all...from family, friends, God....

so, son, hope this helps you put thinks in perspective
long story...but message is

1 forgive
2 dont hold a grudge and NEVER EVER FEEL HAPPY WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS TO SOMEONE U DON LIKE
3 pray
4 overcome
5 move on
6 thank god for the many blessings

you can start by thanking god for the great mum that you have

oh...i must add...humility is an important virtue too.

God bless!!!