Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts
Showing posts with label culture. Show all posts

Sunday, August 10, 2014

marriage - the dictator

swap marriages in Yemen

- to the perverted: no it's not what you think, so rein yourselves in - don't get excited

it's a traditional practice - thankfully dying out now.

1 a brother and sister marry another brother and sister
2 if all goes well, no problem
3 But if couple A have problems  and want a divorce- then couple B MUST divorce even if they are perfectly happy together.

it has caused many a woman great pain because they often have to leave their children behind and go back to their parent's home


Tuesday, September 10, 2013

unethical


Half Of Us Are Victims Of This Illegal Act After College. It's Really Not OK.


In 2005, when I graduated from college, I moved to New York. While I was looking for a job, one opened up that I would have likely tripped my mother to get — but it was an unpaid internship. Being from humble beginnings, there's no way I could live in a big city without being paid. And unless you actually don't need a job, who actually can?
 

If you liked this cartoon (and who wouldn't — unless you've hired interns and didn't pay them, in which case BOO), you should Like its creator, Matt Bors, on Facebook. He's super, ain't he?

Saturday, October 6, 2012

lee kuan yew's comment causes unhappiness

  • lee kuan yew
  • I have to speak candidly to be of value, but I do not want to offend the Muslim community... I think we were progressing very nicely until the surge of Islam came, and if you asked me for my observations, the other communities have easier integration – friends, inter-marriages and so on – than Muslims... I would say, today, we can integrate all religions and races, except Islam.
    • from his book 'Lee Kuan Yew: Hard Truths to Keep Singapore Going' (Asia One, March 08 2011 
Hard Truths was a book based on 32 hours of interviews over a period of two years. I made this one comment on the Muslims integrating with other communities probably two or three years ago. Ministers and MPs, both Malay and non-Malay, have since told me that Singapore Malays have indeed made special efforts to integrate with the other communities, especially since 9/11, and that my call is out of date. I stand corrected, but only just this instance! I hope that this trend will continue in the future.


were there protests? no
was there unhappiness amongst the muslim community ? yes
how was it resolved
= lky retracted his statement...
the opinion of one person cannot make or break a religion or cultural group

you do....

so stay calm, collected and show them you are made of finer stuff...friends...

No one community is to blame for the cracks that appear...everybody must bear responsibility and take action...

I hope our children will live in a better world than we did.

Monday, April 9, 2012

culture goes online - qingming tradition fading away?

How we pay respects to our elders might be redefined within a generation as more people are questioning the importance of having a physical manifestation of their ancestors.

Sea burials and going online for Qingming have emerged as viable alternatives to the tradition. Like Gaw, many Singaporeans of his generation prefer to scatter their ashes into the sea, rather than going through the hassle of buying a niche.

Retiree Ang Lay Cheu is one of them. The 58-year-old visits his parents’ niche at Bright Hill every year during Qingming, but said he would choose a sea burial for himself.

“Personally I would prefer a sea burial, and our grandchildren will just face the sky and pay their respects, instead of having to travel to a specific place every year. It’s more convenient for them,” he said.

In other Asian countries like Malaysia, Taiwan, China and Hong Kong, many are abandoning traditional Qingming practices and using online memorial websites to make offerings to their ancestors.

These online memorials allow users to share photos, leave tributes and write condolence messages. They can also purchase virtual offerings such as candles and flowers.

The practice is still nascent in Singapore as only a minority has jumped onto the bandwagon, using sites like HeavenAddress and GoneTooSoon to make online tributes.

However, the alternative has its appeal to young, internet-savvy Singaporeans. Said 20-year-old Chew Si Pei: “Online memorials are definitely useful because young people nowadays are so connected to the Internet world. It certainly saves a lot of hassle.”

A tradition under threat

The rising prices of niches, issues with land leases and the belief that the younger generation might not continue the tradition are cited as top concerns for Gen X Singaporeans.

Soaring prices for increasingly scarce niche lots is another big concern for the Gen X. Due to land scarcity in Singapore, the price of niches has shot up over the years, with the most expensive single spaces in private columbariums going for a whooping $10,000.

Niches which can house the ashes of up to 24 family members in Nirvana Memorial Garden are priced at $200,000. Single niches can cost from $3,800 to $10,000, depending on its location.

Similarly, prices for Bright Hill columbarium start at $3,800 for a basic niche, and can hit up to $15,000 according to the desirability of its location.

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

a cultural gap

http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/norway-authorities-take-away-indian-couple-s-kids-say-feeding-with-hands-wrong-167660

ew Delhi: Anurup and Sagarika Bhattacharya - an Indian couple from Kolkata are living a nightmare in Norway. Their children - a three-year-old son and one-year-old daughter - were taken away from them by Norway's child protective services and placed in foster care eight months ago.

The drastic measure was taken because, according to the child protective services, the couple were not bringing the children up properly. What did they do wrong? They fed the children with their hands and the infants slept in the same bed as the parents.

"My son was sleeping with my husband. They said he should sleep separately from your son," said Mrs Bhattacharya.


"Feeding a child with the hand is normal in Indian tradition and when the mother is feeding with a spoon there could be phases when she was overfeeding the child. They said it was force feeding. These are basically cultural differences," said Mr Bhattacharya.

Recently, the Indian Embassy in Oslo stepped in and an officer even met the children, though the parents were not allowed to.

Norway's Child Protective Service is a powerful body charged with protecting the rights of children living in difficult family situations. But there are many reports of excesses.

"There has been a report in UN in 2005 which criticized Norway for taking too many children in public care. The amount was 12,500 children and Norway is a small country," said Svein Kjetil Lode Svendsen, lawyer.

The Bhattacharyas' visas expire in March. If they don't get their children by then, the couple will be forced to stay on.

"What we have thought is we are not going to apply for visa for my children. But if the case doesn't get sorted we have to apply because we cannot come back to India without our children," said Mr Bhattacharya.

It's a nightmare that, at this moment, seems without end.


BUT...PLEASE DO BE CAREFUL BEFORE WE JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS...
READ COMMENTS

...Nothing can be said without proper data and information. I was in one of these scandic countries with a similar aged daughter, and find their kindergarten and nurseries are extremely well managed and caring for kids. These kinds of things do happen, but in very rare cases, and it can happen to any parents. But there are many steps before this takes place, and cannot happen without any distinctive proof .... There are many steps goes into before this extreme ... 2/3 stages of counseling, counseling if there is autism ... many checks goes into health care, immunization record, family issue, etc. etc. before the foster care comes into place ...... so I am really skeptical about what is the reality here ...

... The parents are not saying what they really did wrong here .... norway is not a lawless country ...there is no dictatorship there.... its been over 8 months since the babies were taken away, and if the parents are not able to get them back legally ...then there is more to the story than what we are being told here!

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

THIS PICTURE MADE ME CRY TOO


as you can see....many things make me cry when i am marking papers

Chief Raoni crying when he learned that the President of Brazil approved the Belo Monte dam project on the Xingu indigenous lands. Belo Monte will be bigger than the Panama Canal, flooding nearly a million acres of rainforest & indigenous lands. 40,000 indigenous and local people will be forced off their native lands (as well as millions of unknown species & plants) In the name of "progress"


THIS REMINDS ME OF A SONG I USED TO LOVE - I CANT FIND THE LYRICS NOW...IT WAS A RECORD( THEY DIDNT HAVE CDs AND dvdS THEN) THAT MY BROTHER BOUGHT FROM AMERICA...

HOW I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR THAT SOULFUL VOICE SINGING THAT SONG....

IT WAS SUNG BY RED INDIANS WHO WERE FORCED OFF THEIR LAND BY THE WHITEMEN WHO CAME TO AMERICA....AND MADE the red indians LIVE IN RESERVATIONS...

and nooo - the red indians are not indian...


I STILL REMEMBER SOME OF THE LYRICS


A proud happy people
we were here long before the white man came
the river gave us fish, the woodlands gave us wood and other wild game

ohhh iiiii ...iiii I wanna get back home again

i cant remember the rest of the lyrics - but the songs in that record painted a
beautiful picture of happy people who were one with nature...

HOW TRAGIC, THAT WE ARE GOING TO MAKE MORE AND MORE HAPPY PEOPLE DISAPPEAR
ALL IN THE NAME OF PROGRESS
A CRYING SHAME INDEED

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

women - may your future get brighter

Afghanistan is the most dangerous country for women, an international poll of experts on gender issues says.

High levels of violence, poor healthcare and poverty make Afghanistan the worst place for women, the study by the Thomson-Reuters Foundation says.

The survey places the Democratic Republic of Congo and Pakistan in second and third positions.

India is rated the fourth most dangerous country due to high levels of female foeticide and sex trafficking.

Somalia ranked fifth in the survey.
'Hidden dangers'

"Ongoing conflict, Nato airstrikes and cultural practices combined make Afghanistan a very dangerous place for women," said Antonella Notari, head of Women Change Makers, a group that supports women social entrepreneurs around the world.

"In addition, women who do attempt to speak out or take on public roles that challenge ingrained gender stereotypes of what is acceptable for women to do or not, such as working as policewomen or news broadcasters, are often intimidated or killed," she added.

The poll asked 213 experts from five continents to rank countries on issues like overall perception of danger, access to healthcare, violence, cultural discrimination and human trafficking.

"This survey shows that 'hidden dangers' like a lack of education or terrible access to healthcare are as deadly, if not more so, than physical dangers like rape and murder which usually grab the headlines," Monique Villa, chief executive of Thomson-Reuters Foundation, said.

Pakistan was included in the list for having "some of the highest rates of dowry murder, so-called honour killings and early marriages".

India ranked fourth primarily due to female foeticide, infanticide and human trafficking, the report said.

A BBC correspondent in Delhi says India's inclusion among the worst five countries in the world is bound to raise eyebrows here.

The report quotes some experts as saying that "the world's largest democracy was relatively forthcoming about describing its problems, possibly casting it in a darker light than if other countries were equally transparent about trafficking".


mag - wonder what i would have been doing if i had been born in india
cecelia - working as a maid in singapore?
sane thomas - no comments

Monday, April 18, 2011

justin Baby!! beeeeber

no I don't have anything against him

My son hates him like poison - but i know he is just insanely jealous
and i know u r reading this, son

my daughter hates him too - still at an awkward age perhaps - too shy to admit
that you actually have a crush? yes, conjecture on my part - but I think I am not wrong in my assessment of the situation? and don't roll your eyes at me young lady!

but as usual - i digress

I don't know why you "hate" him? Isn't that too strong an emotion for someone who has done you no harm?

You could either like him or just NOT care...i don't care for him - except it gives me great joy to sing his songs to you as you cover your ears in feigned annoyance.

but i seriously do not understand why people malign him so - hate clubs sap the enery of the world - hate is such a disempowering emotion

so chill - kiddos...

On another note .... heard this on the radio ....


father tells Hossan Leong...

I had to drive my screaming daughters to the sistic outlet and queue up with screaming girls to buy the tickets...

and a girl buys all beeeeber paraphernalia - and in purple - his favourite colour...paid for by her PARENTS....what are doing to your kid???


WASTE MY TIME TIME TIME TIME....

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

a race to change their race...why is categrising so impt for us?

EIGHTEEN-YEAR-OLD student Sarah Lin Ting Al-Idros, classified as 'Arab' on her identity card, bristled at the suggestion that she might change her race to 'Chinese' for pragmatic reasons.

'I'm proud of my ancestors,' said the daughter of a Saudi Arabian father and a Singaporean Chinese mother.

Instead, with a new proposal to allow double-barrelled race classifications, Ms Lin will change her race to 'Arab-Chinese', putting 'Arab' before 'Chinese' for alphabetical reasons.

'It's only fair to reflect both parents in the same identity card,' she said.

Children of mixed marriages will soon have greater flexibility over how they want their race to be recorded on their identity cards, where before they had no choice but to take their father's race.

However, for a double-barrelled race classification, they and their parents must decide which race is listed first. Administratively, the child will then be identified with that race, Senior Minister of State for Law and Home Affairs Ho Peng Kee told Parliament on Tuesday.

More details will be announced later.

Sociologists interviewed say it will be difficult to choose which race comes first, as the child is more likely to identify with both his parents' ethnicities, or see himself simply as 'Singaporean'.

Practical considerations like which mother tongue to take in school could be the deciding factor in the choice.

In successive years, one unintended consequence could be 'an increasing amount of negotiation and challenges by parents and their growing children seeking variously to get out of any constraints resulting from this policy, or to extract the maximum personal advantage from it', said Nanyang Technological University sociologist Geoffrey Benjamin.

Sociologist and Nominated MP Paulin Straughan, however, welcomed the option as a mark of Singapore's 'appreciation of cross-cultural and inter-ethnic identities'.

It also signals a shift away from a paternalistic notion of race as something inherited from the father, said Associate Professor Straughan, a Chinese married to an American.

Her view was echoed by Mr Silva Nathan, 46, parent of two teenage daughters who are one-quarter Indian and three-quarters Chinese.

He liked the idea for being 'more equitable across gender and race', and will leave it to his daughters to decide if they want a double-barrelled classification.

Critics, however, say the move is an exercise in futility. With growing intermarriage, the multiple ethnic identities cannot be captured sufficiently even in double-barrelled race classifications.

In Singapore, mixed marriages made up 16.4 per cent of all marriages in 2007, compared to 8.9 per cent a decade earlier.

Analysts believe a good number of these parents are likely to adopt a hyphenated race classification for their child, as a better reflection of his heritage.

Singapore Management University (SMU) assistant professor Hoon Chang Yau, who studies ethnicity, argued that race and ethnicity can never be 'neat and watertight categories'.

'Especially with globalisation, we shall see more and more mixing. The CMIO model seems too restrictive to accommodate the proliferating complexity,' he said.

CMIO refers to Chinese, Malay, Indian and Others, the four race categories used widely in government administrative measures.

Mr Edward Zaccheus, a counsellor of Indian ethnicity who has a Chinese wife, said the identity of his two teenage daughters is not based exclusively on race.

'Our religion, Christianity, plays a part in shaping their identities,' he said.

'Moreover, when curious Chinese aunties and uncles ask them for their race in public places, they describe themselves as Singaporean, rather than Indian or Chinese,' he added.

Doing away with racial categorisation will be a more accurate reflection of diversity in Singapore, he said.

For the record, however, his 21-year-old daughter Melody would like to change her racial identity from 'Indian' to 'Indian-Chinese'.

'It would be more accurate,' she said. 'People keep asking if I'm Malay.'

Other observers are concerned that the flexibility that children of mixed parentage enjoy may create envy in those whose parents are of the same race and thus cannot 'pick and choose' their race.

National University of Singapore (NUS) sociologist Tan Ern Ser gives an example of a Chinese-Malay child. 'If Chinese is considered a more difficult language, and he is allowed to choose Malay as a second language, would his 'Chinese-Chinese' friends feel unfairly treated?'

And for the adult Chinese-Malay, 'what if he chooses to be Chinese to maximise his chances of buying a flat in a particular HDB precinct?'

Other analysts think, however, that these concerns are overblown. They believe that the authorities are likely to restrict the number of changes a person can make to his race classification, and that once decided on, that classification will have to be used for all situations.

On ethnic quotas in Housing Board estates, NUS sociologist Chua Beng Huat thinks those with a double-barrelled race classification should not be given a choice. For example, a Chinese-Indian should be placed on a Chinese quota, rather than given a choice to use 'Chinese' or 'Indian' to purchase flats, which could give him a strategic advantage over others.

What of candidates in a general election in a group representation constituency (GRC)? The law requires at least one to be from a minority race. Will a Chinese-Malay count as one, or will he be considered a Chinese?

SMU law lecturer Eugene Tan believes the first listed race will continue to undergird the GRC policy.

Overall, the debate stirred up by the change is healthy, Associate Professor Tan Ern Ser believes.

'It forces us to think about whether race is indeed something we should continue to emphasise,' he said.

Friday, October 3, 2008

do campaigns work

'GOODNESS Gracious Me!' is a project by The Straits Times to get Singaporeans to think about others, starting with clearing their food trays after they eat.
Posters, stickers and mobiles with the slogan 'This mess is not okay. Please return your dirty tray', will be displayed at five outlets operated by our foodcourt partner, Kopitiam from Sunday.

Saturday, September 27, 2008

the benefits of story telling

  • Popular tales do far more than entertain,
  • Why does our brain seem to be wired to enjoy stories? And how do the emotional and cognitive effects of a narrative influence our beliefs and real-world decisions?
  • We tell stories about other people and for other people
  • Stories help us to keep tabs on what is happening in our communities.
  • The safe, imaginary world of a story may be a kind of training ground, where we can practice interacting with others and learn the customs and rules of society.
  • And stories have a unique power to persuade and motivate, because they appeal to our emotions and capacity for empathy.
  • Storytelling is one of the few human traits that are truly universal across culture and through all of known history
  • People in societies of all types weave narratives, from oral storytellers in hunter-gatherer tribes to the millions of writers churning out books, television shows and movies.
  • the best stories—those retold through generations and translated into other languages—do more than simply present a believable picture.
  • These tales captivate their audience, whose emotions can be inextricably tied to those of the story’s characters. Such immersion is a state psychologists call “narrative transport.”
  • The power of stories does not stop with their ability to reveal the workings of our minds. Narrative is also a potent persuasive tool, according to Hogan and other researchers, and it has the ability to shape beliefs and change minds.
  • Advertisers have long taken advantage of narrative persuasiveness by sprinkling likable characters or funny stories into their commercials

Scientific American Mind - September 18, 2008
The Secrets of Storytelling: Why We Love a Good Yarn
Our love for telling tales reveals the workings of the mind
By Jeremy Hsu

Friday, August 8, 2008

FENG SHUI AND THE FLYER

Frankie Chee explains why the Singapore Flyer had to turn the other way.
THERE is no scientific explanation to Feng Shui, but the ancient Chinese art of seeking fortune and wealth through astronomy and geography was powerful enough to make a $240-million wheel turn the other way, literally.
That wheel is the 150m-diameter Singapore Flyer which reversed its direction last Monday, amidst other new features introduced at the Marina Bay attraction.
While in most cases it might have taken months of discussion and much persuasion to bring about such an about-turn, all it took in this instance was a few Feng Shui masters and four months of study.

Sunday, July 27, 2008

marriage and culture

Getting hitched the retro way seems to be the rage among Chinese couples.
They are not doing it in 1960s mini-dresses and psychedelic prints but in elaborate, centuries-old Chinese style.
At least five one-stop shops have opened in recent years to cater to couples who want to observe customary Chinese rituals such as guo da li (gift presentation) and shang tou (hair combing), long considered too archaic and passe by trendy Singaporeans.
Most of their customers are couples in their 20s and 30s, and they do it out of respect for their parents or to reclaim their Chinese heritage.