so what is there to be happy about?

plenty...unfortunately, we don't realise it...or rather do not want to acknowledge it.

my brother visited today - he walked past me...looked at me...and said...what the hell are you so happy about?...he usually isn't so crude but i guess he wasn't having a good day...

my reply - it's all in the mind... i create my own happiness

it really is about choices, isnt it...pardon my language...but (as my brother puts it), s___ happens. Some fall apart; others wallow in self pity; still others play the blame game...but some choose to DEAL WITH IT...AND MAKE THE BEST OUT OF IT...
(conceding opposing viewpoint) - Granted, not everybody has the disposition or the resilience to deal with the problem...(rebuttal) but the fact remains that it is possible if we try


think about 3 articles you have read in the newspaper...DONT CHEAT.. PL DO NOT READ ON UNTIL YOU HAVE LISTED THE 3 ARTICLES


chances are they are about something negative; painful or disastrous...some article on philosophy I read actually states that this ability to notice and remember negative events is in-built in us...Evolutionarily speaking it's because bad things can kill us or harm us so our brains are more attuned to picking up on negative information. On the other hand if we missed out on some good events, we won't die because of it.

If this argument is indeed valid, then it is easy to explain why we seem to be so focussed on the negative...but if this preoccupation with the negative results in a general sense of unhappiness... then we need to make a conscious attempt to rewire...

on the other hand, there is also what is called selective amnesia...
definition - amnesia about particular events that is very convenient for the person who cannot remember

( i remember reading a joke somewhere that went like this...selective amnesia...there is something i want to say about this...but i forgot)





how do i deal with problems...
i pray...
i read - to me, nothing beats curling up in bed with a good book...
i love people watching...cos i am so into body language...

so what is the difference between joy and happiness...

PLEASE DO DISAGREE WITH ME....